Feeling in Control -- A Key to Longevity

Studies make clear that people possessing a sense of independence (“being in control”) outlive those who don’t.

How can that be fostered? Families of loved ones and their caretakers need to focus on presenting choices, not decisions.

Of course, some dependence is unavoidable (isn’t that so for all of us?). But, the need to deprive the person of a say in some matters (driving a car, for instance) shouldn’t disqualify him from making any decisions. The reality, however, is that it’s easier to make all choices for that person.

Resist the temptation.

At the very least, let the person pick out what to wear each morning and make other simple choices.

Others recognizing the areas of independence that can be safely honored enhance the “cared-for” person’s sense of self- worth and extends his life. (Who wants to be entirely dependent on the decisions of others for his existence?)