Feeling in Control -- A Key to Longevity

Studies make clear that people possessing a sense of independence (“being in control”) outlive those who don’t.

How can that be fostered? Families of loved ones and their caretakers need to focus on presenting choices, not decisions.

Of course, some dependence is unavoidable (isn’t that so for all of us?). But, the need to deprive the person of a say in some matters (driving a car, for instance) shouldn’t disqualify him from making any decisions. The reality, however, is that it’s easier to make all choices for that person.

Resist the temptation.

At the very least, let the person pick out what to wear each morning and make other simple choices.

Others recognizing the areas of independence that can be safely honored enhance the “cared-for” person’s sense of self- worth and extends his life. (Who wants to be entirely dependent on the decisions of others for his existence?) 

Computer Use Holds Dementia at Bay!

Studies show that the risk of suffering from mild-cognitive disorder (MCI) – often, although not always, a precursor to dementia – decreases substantially for those who are mentally-stimulated. Desirable activities include weekly computer use, playing cards and reading.

Beware of Scammers!

A recent Wall Street Journal article warned that authorities are fighting a scourge of phone crime enabled by cheap technology that blasts out nefarious calls and hides wrongdoers’ whereabouts. The scammers are heavily targeting the elderly, often posing as cash-strapped grandchildren, tax collectors or providers of technical support.

Fully robotic robocall schemes leave automated messages directing recipients to call back certain numbers. Those who comply encounter a person and a pitch. In another tactic, fraudsters, often overseas, hop on the line when someone picks up. India, The Philippines, Costa Rica and Peru are among countries where such operations are most prevalent.

Also, fraudsters use robocalls and caller IDs to imitate the Internal Revenue Service.

The callers falsely and aggressively claim recipients owe back taxes and face immediate legal trouble. 

Note: The IRS will send you a letter first – not a phone call – if you owe back taxes. The IRS scam is among those disproportionately targeting the elderly.